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To date or not to date - Allegheny County Divorce Lawyer

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If you're getting divorced, chances are that you've been out of the dating scene for quite some time. People have mixed feelings about dating while in the midst of a divorce. Some say that dating someone new can boost your confidence after a break-up. On the other hand, some say you should wait until the divorce is officially over before delving into a new romance. There really is no right answer as to whether you should wait for the ink to dry on your divorce decree before dating.

Divorce is emotionally, financially and mentally draining and dating someone new can offer an exciting second chance at love. Here are a few reasons that dating during the divorce process may be a good idea:

•1. Relaxation and Distraction: You've probably been under a great deal of stress throughout the divorce process. It's normal to fixate on the divorce process and easy to become consumed by it all. But dating someone new could provide you with the opportunity to relax and focus on something other than the negativity stemming from the divorce.

•2. Attitude Upgrade: Dating will get you in an upbeat frame of mind which has been proven to improve your overall health. The stressors of the divorce process can really take a toll on your mental and physical health and dating might be just what the doctor ordered!

•3. Expand Your Social Circle: As we get older, it becomes more and more difficult to make new friends. Meeting someone new can lead to meeting lots of new people. The person you're dating is sure to have friends that you can connect with.

Despite the above benefits, it may be the case that you're simply not be ready to date during the divorce process. Here are some reasons that dating before the divorce is final may not be right for you:

•1. Children: Your kids are your number one priority and the divorce is surely taking a toll on them. Even if you're being discrete, dating before your divorce is final might send a confusing message to your children about adult relationships.

•2. You're Still Healing: It's going to take some time to work through the issues tangled up in the divorce process. It's important to listen to your inner-self when making the decision whether or not to start dating.

•3. Alone Time: It may be in your best interest to be alone for some time before venturing into another relationship. You can use this time to do things that you haven't done in a while, or visit friends and family you've lost touch with.

Whether or not to start dating during a divorce can be a tough decision. Whether or not to retain an attorney during the divorce process is a much easier one. If you're considering divorce or have initiated the divorce process, contact our office today to set up a consultation with a knowledgeable and experienced Pennsylvania Family Law attorney to learn more about how we can help you protect your rights, your family and your finances.

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