When Is Family Law Mediation Necessary?

Any time you and your ex are unable to resolve a family law matter, family mediation can be an excellent resource to utilize. If you share children, these matters can extend to these situations as well.

If you want to ensure that you are able to have a say in working out a family law dispute, mediation is the best way to do it. If you want to learn more about the different situations that warrant family mediation, or if you want to prepare for what is to come if you cannot come together, read on.

Working with Your Former Partner

Whether you are dealing with a former spouse, partner, or the other parent of your children, family law issues can arise in any situation where you need to work together to resolve a disagreement.

This might include a fight over the division of your property and assets in a divorce, agreeing to a child custody plan, determining how much child or spousal support will be paid, and more. It is critical that you do everything you can to find a solution to these problems, because if you do not, your case will be handled by the courts.

What to Do if You Cannot Come to an Arrangement

When we say that your case will be handled by the courts, we mean that the decision will no longer be either of yours and will instead be sent to the judge for a decision. Both parties will have the opportunity to explain their reasoning to the judge, and the judge will issue orders accordingly. As you can imagine, this often leads to one family member being let down by the decision.

Reach Out to a Family Law Attorney

To protect your family law rights, you will want to secure a highly trained family law attorney at Lisa Marie Vari & Associates, P.C. to represent you and your children’s best interests. You can come in for your initial case review by giving our office a call at 1-844-VARI-LAW (827-4529) or submitting the online contact form we have included at the bottom of this page.

Attorney Nydia Streets Named Florida Family Law Rising Star Again!

For the third year in a row, we are pleased to annouce that Attorney Nydia Streets has been named as a Florida Rising Star in the Family Law field.  Rising Stars are lawyers under the age of 40 who have been nominated for recognition of excellence in their practice area by fellow lawyers and judges.  Rising Star awards are only granted to 5% of lawyers across Florida in each practice area.  Attorney Nydia Streets was awarded the prestigious Rising Star in Family Law recognition in 2016, 2017 and again in 2018.  As stated on her Rising Star profile, Nydia is a top rated family law attorney in Miami, Florida.

Congratulations to Nydia on continuing to receive recognition for her outstanding efforts in the family law field.

Attorney Alexandra Cabonor Named PA Family Law Rising Star

Attorney Alexandra Cabonor received the very prestigious award of being named a Rising Star in Pennsylvania Family Law by the Super Lawyers organization.  The Super Lawyer and Rising Star candidates are nominated by fellow lawyers and judges from across the state.  The candidates are then screened for qualifications with only 5% of lawyers across Pennsylvania being named to the Rising Star or Super Lawyer categories.

As indicated on her Rising Star profile, Attorney Cabonor is one of the top rated family law attorneys in Pennsylvania!

Congratulations Alexandra!

Attorney Lisa Vari Named Family Law Super Lawyer Again!

Congratulations, Lisa Vari, on being named to the 2018 Pennsylvania Super Lawyers list!

This is Ms. Vari’s fifth consecutive year being named as a Pennsylvania Super Lawyer for Family Law. Super Lawyers reviews thousands of peer-nominated candidates every year, ultimately selecting a small percentage of attorneys in each state for inclusion on this prestigious list. Each potential candidate is evaluated based on factors such as peer recognition and professional achievement.  As stated on her Super Lawyers profile, Ms. Vari is a top rated Pennsylvania family law attorney.

A passionate family law advocate

After having been admitted to the Pennsylvania bar in 1993 Ms. Vari worked for two years as a staff attorney for the administrative judge of the Family Division of the Allegheny County Court of Common Pleas prior to going into private practice. Attorney Vari is admitted to practice before all courts in Pennsylvania and Florida as well as the U.S. District Court for the Western District of Pennsylvania and the Supreme Court of the United States.

Today Ms. Vari is the founder of Lisa Marie Vari & Associates, P.C. focusing her practice exclusively on family law, she represents clients throughout Pennsylvania and Florida in matters involving divorce, child custody, grandparents’ rights, adoption and surrogacy.

We congratulate Ms. Vari on her latest selection to the Pennsylvania Super Lawyers list.

How to Have a Healthy Surrogate Pregnancy

Surrogates give the ultimate gift to intended parents: the gift of a healthy child. By caring for your health during the pregnancy, you are not just taking care of the child you are carrying—you are taking care of yourself. A healthy surrogate is just as important as the birth of a healthy child.

Providing the baby you are carrying for the intended parents with a healthy start is important. Below are some tips for keeping the baby and yourself as healthy as possible during your surrogate pregnancy.

Minimize Stress

Surrogate pregnancy will bring about all of the regular stress and mood swings that generally accompany pregnancy. In addition to the general stress that pregnancy can bring, surrogates can experience the stress associated with carrying a child for the intended parents.

Some suggestions to minimize stress are yoga, artwork with non-toxic materials, listening to music, and taking a relaxing bath.

Take Your Prenatal Vitamins

Both before and after embryo transplant, surrogates should be taking the required daily prenatal vitamins to keep the baby and surrogate healthy during the pregnancy. Prenatal vitamins promote healthy growth and development for the baby and the surrogate.

Talk to the doctor and the intended parents about what vitamin regimen is right for you.

Make Time for Plenty of Sleep

Eight hours of sleep is highly recommended for surrogates. Sleep promotes healthy growth and development for the baby and ensures a continued healthy pregnancy for the surrogate.

After the first trimester, many surrogates find that sleeping on their side is the most comfortable position. Look into buying a sleep pillow designed specifically for pregnancy.

Eat Well

Eating three well-balanced meals a day and healthy snacks in between meals as needed is important to a healthy surrogate pregnancy.

Surrogates should eat foods with lots of protein, include fresh fruit and vegetables in every meal, and avoid undercooked foods like eggs, meat, and fish. Unpasteurized dairy products and certain fish may contain high levels of mercury, which may not be healthy for the surrogate or the child.

Make a challenge of it! Many surrogates find that when the intended parents also join the healthy eating challenge during the surrogate pregnancy, it becomes easier to maintain.

Stay Hydrated

Dehydration can cause premature labor, fatigue, and muscle aches during pregnancy. It is very important to drink plenty of water and natural juice that is low in sugar.

Water helps deliver all the important nutrients, vitamins, and minerals to the baby during pregnancy. Additionally, drinking plenty of water will keep the surrogate’s skin, hair, and nails healthy during the pregnancy.

Keep Active

Thirty minutes of low-impact physical activity, such as walking, yoga, or swimming, daily will contribute to a healthy surrogate and a healthy pregnancy. Exercise also will reduce pregnancy symptoms, increase blood flow, and positively impact the surrogate’s mood. Daily exercise makes labor and delivery easier, as well.

Mix it up—choose a different activity each day to keep things fun.  

Keep Track of Pregnancy Symptoms

Journal throughout the pregnancy, and track your symptoms so the doctors and intended parents are always informed. As a surrogate, you have experienced pregnancy before, so use that knowledge of your body and the similarities and differences you’re experiencing this time around.

After delivery, share the journal with the intended parents! This can be an added connection that they will have with their child.

Stay Away from Toxic Substances

Whether you paint, make clay pots, cook, or use aromatherapy, pay close attention to the substances you are exposing yourself—and the baby you’re carrying—to. Do not drink or take any drugs not given to you by the doctor caring for you and the baby during the surrogate pregnancy.

Check the cleaning supplies that you use, and avoid caffeine. Always check with the doctor and the intended parents before taking any over-the-counter medications that may be harmful to you or the baby.  

Go to the Doctor Regularly

During your surrogate pregnancy, you will be examined by the doctor and fertility specialist often to ensure a healthy pregnancy. These appointments may be more than you had for your own pregnancy. Keep all the appointments, and make sure to keep the intended parents in the loop.

Often, the intended parents will want to attend every appointment, so be sure to let them know in advance of any changes. Intended parents and surrogates who use assisted reproductive technology to conceive may require more doctor visits than those with a traditional pregnancy, but that is to be expected.  

Take Time to Reflect On and Enjoy the Experience

Some people ask us, “Why use a surrogate mother?” As a surrogate, you are helping intended parents bring the greatest joy into their lives: a child.

Enjoy the experience that both you and the intended parents are having. Take time to appreciate the joy the intended parents are experiencing, whether that involves watching them shopping for baby clothing or being the calm presence during this emotional experience.

Reach Out to a Pennsylvania Surrogacy Agency

If you are considering surrogacy to conceive or thinking about becoming a surrogate, it would be our pleasure to assist you along your journey to parenthood. You can schedule your first appointment at Baby Steps Surrogacy Center, Inc. by clicking the contact button at the top of our website or by calling us directly at 412-884-2229.