Imagine this – you’ve just been through a divorce and you’re finally starting to feel normal again. Then, without warning, circumstances drastically change and you find yourself living with someone you could barely stand just a few years ago – your ex! What could possibly lead to this unconventional situation? For one recently divorced couple the answer was an unexpected, serious illness.
AskMoxie.com columnist Magda Pecsenye described her experience after she received the unexpected news that her ex-husband suffered a heart attack and was in the hospital. Gathering the couple’s children, Magda rushed to her ex-husband’s bedside and, before she knew it, she had decided to move into his house to care for him for a few weeks after he was released from the hospital. Magda’s story continues with her explaining how divorce saved her family. Yes – you read that right, divorce saved her family.
As divorce attorneys, we’ve heard similar stories about former spouses getting along better after their divorce than during their marriage. It actually makes sense if you think about it, by the time a marriage fails the relationship between the spouses has become so dysfunctional that there’s little room for reason and teamwork. After a divorce is final, a great deal of pressure is relieved and many people find that they can be themselves again.
This transition out of the stress and anger of the divorce and into a new world of peace can be the key for co-parenting. Although your divorce may be over, sharing responsibilities as parents is something that will go on forever. If you’re contemplating a divorce and think you may never be able to co-parent effectively with your spouse, contact our office to schedule a consultation with one of our experienced child custody attorneys to learn more about child custody schedules and co-parenting strategies. Our attorneys will work with you to develop a child custody arrangement that promotes the best co-parenting relationship between you and your former spouse.