Divorces can be a devastating experience for all parties involved. The adjustment to new lives and lifestyles can add mountains of stress to an already stressful situation. This blog presents a few helpful tips in adjusting to your new life in Pennsylvania and accepting and moving past your divorce.
It is important to first understand that it is okay to let yourself feel however it is you are feeling. Your body and mind need time to process and experience the emotional impact of the divorce in order to fully understanding it and ultimately move past it. Divorce represents a loss or losses. You need to feel that loss to adequately grieve it.
Once you have gone through the grieving period, you must next work on the feelings you’re still carrying with you after the divorce. Many people seek professional counseling in order to talk out and work through these feelings.
Next it is important to remember the person you were before you were married. Remember your hobbies, interests, and the things that made you happy before you began to completely share your life with someone else. Remembering this version of yourself will help you to ultimately value you again. Divorce can be very defeating and it is important to maintain self-respect, love, and value.
At this point, you can start to discover a new side of yourself. Do something you never thought you could, but always wanted to do. Find a new hobby, meet people with different interests that you, join things, plan things, take trips! Become your own adventure. Pennsylvania has so many wonderful things for anyone to try! This is your time to dare yourself to be alone and discover things about yourself that inspire you to move forward with your life.
Equally important to being okay with being alone, is embracing dating and meeting new people once you’re ready. Experiencing dating relationships can help you transition into a lifestyle that is ready and open to meet people and welcome them into your lives.
Finally, it is important that you welcome your new life in Pennsylvania and the roles it presents you with. For example, if you are now a single parent, embrace this new role and instill confidence in yourself when performing it. These new roles are part of what defines the new you, and it is important to welcome and run with them.